More dating in the 80s (continued)

The last thing we talked about was “Paying homage to the Porcelain God,” and in case some of you do not know or remember who that was… It was any toilet handy!  I have some not so fond memories of the prayers I said to it!

Speaking of toilets!  Remember last time I told you in great detail about my hospital visit and forgot to tell you the operation’s name: Mastoid!  My stay was a little longer than usual because of my physical condition.  I was placed in a wing for the blind as well as deaf.  There were handholds on the wall the entire length of the corridors.  I was supposed to be escorted to the bathroom and escorted back until I was totally clear of the anesthetic.  Right!  On my first visit, I decided I could make it on my own, the handholds were helpful, but I crawled most of the way back to my room.  You can imagine the surprise of the Nurse finding me in my bed! I was watched closely from then on.   

I borrowed a pretty blouse from Pat.  She always looked great and seemed to have a large supply of clothes.  It was starched and looked great!  I was horrified that it had dark stains around the collar.  I just washed and starched it and gave it back to her, saying nothing.  I watched her pack a big box with most of her clothes, including panties.  She mailed them to her Mother, and in a few days, they came back all freshly washed and ironed.  I never borrowed again!  She would go through the apartment, and it looked great when she was done.  But nothing was cleaned. I didn’t care; we were friends; we took care of each other and had a blast.

This is not from CBS, we didn’t take any pictures, but they were this big.

Pat met her husband-to-be, and so her dates were spending time with him.  I, on the other hand, had a lot of fun.  When the guys found out I was a hick from the sticks and had never had any of the wonderful food available, they couldn’t wait to show me what I had missed.  One of the first places I was taken was CBS!  Not the TV station; College Bake Shop!  They made the most wonderful Pizza in the world!  I had never had Pizza before, and that blew their minds.  The tables were just big enough for the Pizzas. The restaurant was a favorite hang-out for the young people, and I loved it.

My next foray into the delicacies of Hartford was spaghetti!  I thought I was having Macaroni and tomatoes like we had at home.  You can imagine my surprise at a huge plate of that long stringy stuff with a Marinara Sauce with huge Meatballs sitting in front of me.  I looked at it for several long minutes before admitting I didn’t have a clue about how to eat it. My date took great pleasure showing me.  I still love it and make it often.  There was a Greek Restaurant in downtown Hartford that was family-owned. Two of the young men took a liking to Pat and me. We always made it a point to go to their restaurant often, especially after shopping, with all our bags of bargains.  The guys couldn’t stand knowing we would walk or take a bus carrying all those packages; they would drive us home.  They were sweet and very nice guys that never tried to take advantage of us.

When I walked alone, I was never worried about being accosted.  I had a large purse on an over-the-shoulder strap.  I put a weight in the bottom for protection. Several guys started harassing me as I was walking downtown one day.  I held the purse by the long handle and started swinging it in a circle, and as they moved aside, I walked through them.  I never acted like a victim; besides, I was young and immortal!

I dated a guy who had just gotten out of the Marines; I think his name was Sam, and his service stories were hysterical.  Many of us young people got together at one of the apartments and just hung out and drank beer and ate food.  There was no delivery of food; it had to be picked up.  One time Sam decided to do a white glove inspection of our apartment.  Pat and I were not amused.  When he showed up in his dress blues, we let him in, and he ran his white-gloved hand around our wainscoting and tsk’ed a lot.  We followed him around, and when he got to the front door, we pushed him out and locked it.  We told him, “Come back when you aren’t a Marine, and we will party!”  He took it okay and came back with beer and goodies to eat. 

One night Sammy and I parked, and during our make-out session (which is much tamer than now), we professed our undying love for each other and declared we would get married.  I think there was a lot of beer involved because the next morning, I was scared to death as I told Pat over breakfast.  “Oh, my God, I don’t want to marry anyone.  What am I going to do?” Pat suggested, not saying anything unless Sam brings it up.  When Sam showed up, we both pretended not to remember much about our conversation and just let it go.  Sammy had a Red convertible, and we, of course, had the radio going full blast all the time.  When he stopped at a stoplight, we would jump out of the car and dance until it changed.  We got some strange looks from other drivers and a few honks!  Fortunately, no cops showed up.  They don’t have a sense of humor.

This wasn’t Sammy’s but close.

Okay, that’s enough for today; I will swing back around and talk more about my adventures of being single in the 80s in Hartford, Conn. 

Speaking of Adventures, check out my Young Adult series of 7 books on Amazon.  They are called Ruby & Nolan’s Great Adventures in Space.  Want to learn how to ride on a Dragon’s back? I have created a map of their new world and will be inserting it in new books. Thanks, and have a great day.

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Biography Creating worlds, characters, and wielding power like a madwoman, making my characters happy, sad, angry, and some of them with no redeeming qualities. I probably shouldn’t admit this, but I sometimes laugh out loud when I am writing a scene, and I have been known to cry when one of my favorites has to die. I am a left-handed Gemini, what do you expect? Reading bedtime stories to my two children until they fell asleep or until they just told me to go away, was fun. Making up wild stories for my grandchild, and creating Halloween costumes from Cowboys to a Dragon, was another favorite thing to do. I missed that so much when they were grown, that I started writing. My yearly newsletters frequently were drafted third-person by my Love Birds, Miranda our motorhome, and by Sir Fit the White Knight, our faithful Honda. Throughout the years, some of my creative talents centered around writing letters of complaint expressing my displeasure with services or products. One crucial, at least to my Son, was a note to our local school bus driver petitioning her to allow him back on the bus. He was kicked off for making an obscene gesture at his buddy. I reminded her that it was not directed at her, and that “obscenity can be in the eye of the beholder,” kids use that gesture as a greeting. He rode the bus until he graduated. I loved driving my English teacher crazy. Leaving a “continued next week” at the end of my five handwritten pages required each week. He was one of many people that suggested I “do something about my writing.” I graduated from the School of Hard Knocks at the top of my class. After 30 years, in the trenches as a Real Estate Professional, I have found that truth is stranger than fiction. My books are filled with characters I met in that profession. Their names were changed to protect the guilty. Others were from people we met traveling around the country in Miranda, our Motorhome. I am married nearly 60 years to the love of my life, Shirl, and partner-produced two exceptionally talented children, and one grandchild who is our pride and joy.

15 thoughts on “More dating in the 80s (continued)

  1. My dating experience was sparse, but I had a lot of fun in Hartford. Thank you for your kind words. Some of the names have slipped my mind, but the fun was always there. I hope I didn’t come across as making Pat a not nice person. She was a product of her environment, and she was good to me; we were good for each other.

  2. There can be no doubt about, young women are obvious more observant than young men in that age !? Or why do their stories of the past sound much more interesting and spiked with intricate details?

  3. Your roommate was very wise telling you just to wait and see what happens the next day with Sam. I absolutely love the pizza shot. Were the pizza’s really that big???

  4. This was in the 80s and I didn’t get many pictures, so that is one is from my Publisher program. But yes, they really were that big, and the CBS really did exist. If you can picture never having seen pizza and then going to CBS and seeing them nearly cover the whole table, it was amazing. I wish I could have got a picture of “Sam’s” car. BTW I couldn’t remember his real name, so Sam was made up.

  5. Such fabulous memories to look back on. I love reading of your adventures. Wise move, not mentioning the undying love and wedding plans. 🤣
    Your Ruby & Nolan books sound interesting too. I might have to check them out.

  6. Thank you for reading and liking my post. I have another one ready to post. I never realized my little life was interesting. Ha Ha! Some of my posts will be podcasts, soon.

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