This letter has been a long time coming, but I think that it is at the right time. Since I wrote the “Dear Daughter” letter so long ago, this one has been forming in the back of my mind and in my heart.
I see posts on Facebook that you are sometimes depressed and unhappy, and it breaks my heart. You deserve to be happy! You were a good child and you are a good man. What you have become and done with your life makes us so very proud.
You were the happiest baby, and such an easy child to have around. You were so content playing in your playpen with your toys and the only time you cried was when you were hungry. You weren’t real happy when kids buried your cars. You didn’t need to have a great abundance of toys or attention. You were always able to entertain yourself.
I really tried to help you understand the genes that unfortunately that you got from me. I know that you struggled with some of them, like anger management. You did as good handling it, probably more than me most of the time.
We know now that there were a lot of things that you needed and wanted from us and probably we should have known what they were or tried harder to discover them. The problem with being a parent, as you now know is that there is no manual to help you do the right thing at the right time. Hindsight has shown us that we missed the mark, sometimes a little and sometimes by a country mile. For that we are sorry, but as you know “you can’t go back” and there “aren’t any do-overs”, in life.
There are several things that you need to know.
We are so proud of the man you have become! You have succeeded in the parenting game so much better than we ever did and we are awed with how wonderfully your daughter managed to grow into a wonderful kind, well rounded woman amidst the heartache of divorce at an age that sets the stage for adulthood. You put everything that you wanted and needed aside to make sure that your daughter had everything that she needed to have the very best start in life.
She loves you so very much and wants you to be happy. We also love you so very much and also want you to be happy. You deserve it! You have made so many people so happy, now it is your turn.
We know that you have overcome many things and your latest hardship was a big one. You faced it with honor, humility, dignity, and did everything that was asked of you, no matter the cost to you personally. At the same time you made your daughter your first priority.
We know that you know that we are here for you, and will always be, you just need to ask.
We Love You More